By Andrea Morris
CHIEF OPERATIONS OFFICER
THE MEURIG GROUP, LLC
Everything he does lately is making you question whether he’s being faithful to you. Something feels wrong, but you don’t have proof. You need to know. Your heart pounding, you type “Is he cheating on me?” into Google. Immediately, you’re bombarded with thousands of pages of articles and blog posts all claiming to know the surefire signs that “prove” he’s cheating. You open one article. Then another, and another. The signs are familiar. With mounting panic and a flood of cold dread, you’ve concluded he is cheating on you.
What’s next? The confrontation of course. Having already decided his guilt, you accuse him, showing him your “proof”, only for him to provide legitimate and honest explanations for his behavior. He’s shocked and hurt by the allegations.
You were wrong. There has been a grave miscommunication. He wasn’t cheating.
Now, you realize you may have permanently damaged your relationship. The trust is now gone. The next time he’s at the store just a little too long, or he has to work overtime, he’ll remember when you accused him of cheating. That constant strain on a relationship can break it.
Could this have been prevented? According to psychologist Dr. Jill P. Weber, here’s the first thing you should do after concluding on your own that your partner may be cheating:
DON’T PANIC. This may be a struggle, but try.
“When we perceive danger or a threat, our bodies release excess stress hormones and adrenaline, essentially putting us in a hyper-vigilant, ready-for-action state. Although the chemicals associated with panic make us ache to take action, what we really need to do is take a breather. Pause instead of giving into the panic and throwing your partner’s clothes on the front yard, or making a down payment for a new home. Give yourself the calm and tranquil space necessary for the chemicals to run their course through your nervous system. No one in a panic state, and I mean no one, makes decisions in his or her best interest. You need just enough calm to return so you can begin to think through how best to handle the situation (Weber, 2017).”
Intense emotions stirred by suspicion are primal, but emotions are not proof. The Meurig Group’s licensed private investigators conduct unbiased investigations based on facts and evidence. Your case’s findings report can provide you with the evidence you need to determine how to move forward in your relationship, and unless you disclose it, your partner will never know you hired us.
Save yourself the trauma of trying to find out on your own, the results could be disastrous. Go beyond Google. Leave the investigating to us.
Contact The Meurig Group, LLC* today to find out how we can help.